My husband and I are in our later 40's. We live happily on a quiet farm in the South, and hope that someday-maybe not right away-we can create Intentional Community, and if it happens to grow into a more loving or more physical relationship, that's great. Right now we are still smarting from a previous relationship that did not work out, so for now, I am just keeping up with the boards and being a "pro-poly supporter".

We both feel that another wife would be wonderful, hopefully someone within 15 years of our age so that we are PEERS. We realize that adding another person or people to a relationship makes everything exponentially more work, but we believe the Love and companionship are exponentially worth it too. There is plenty of space here, and we believe that everyone needs their own space.

My husband works on the farm (He has a very fit body, since he works outside all day-he is a horticulturist/farmer by trade), and both of us teach occasionally. We live very frugally. I also have an internet business that's just starting out. We grow a lot of our own food, and have chickens and turkeys and soon goats, and we hunt deer. It's a simple, peaceful and very free life. We are VERY focused on sustainability and "eco-conscious living".

Someone who came to live here would have to have few bills and no shopping habit and probably continue to work to support their payments, and be willing to live a very quiet, low key, rural life and work hard. We are not party people!

We are VERY eclectic spiritually. We are both bookworms, but we do spend some time in the evenings on the internet or watching the occasional documentary. I love to knit and crochet, and sew, and garden, I love fibers of all kinds. I am also very interested in herbalism, and have a goal of setting up some sort of "women's retreat" here on the land.

We not do not tolerate ANY kind of illegal drugs or tobacco on the farm, unless it's for ceremonial/religious use. Very moderate alcohol is ok, and we are 12-step friendly.

We are serious about working at relationships, and about working on our own baggage and past STUFF that may come up as a result of being in more complex relationships, and are eager to support our SW in her journey to balance, healing and wholeness also. We are also serious about keeping drama out of our lives, and about working on our problems. Anger, jealousy and shutting down are unacceptable ways of dealing with problems for us-they point to places where we need to do work. We are committed to finding answers and to healing.

New Note:
Spending time on this site, and having had a 5 month relationship with a potential (who our hearts are still open to) has taught us a lot. And we are still learning.
I have to say now that I believe poly will only work in certain circumstances. I believe it works if you are born into it, and stay in the same tribe/clan/town/church and marry another poly family, and have lots of children.
I believe it works if you are a committed couple who fall in love with a FRIEND, whom you know in your everyday world-NOT on the internet.
But mostly, for most average normal American people with lots of baggage, and hurts they don't even know they have, I DON'T believe it will work. I don't think it will work for young women seeking an older couple, or for ANY woman who has ANY abuse issues unless she has had INTENSE therapy to deal with it and is over the age of 40. I also don't believe anything on this site will work for men just looking for more sex.

Having said that we still hope for a woman to share our lives with.

Now, my co-mates and brothers in exile, Hath not old custom made this life more sweet Than that of painted pomp? Are not these woods More free from peril than the envious court? Here feel we but the penalty of Adam, The seasons' difference, as the icy fang And churlish chiding of the winter's wind, Which, when it bites and blows upon my body, Even till I shrink with cold, I smile and say 'This is no flattery: these are counsellors That feelingly persuade me what I am.' Sweet are the uses of adversity, Which, like the toad, ugly and venomous, Wears yet a precious jewel in his head; And this our life exempt from public haunt Finds tongues in trees, books in the running brooks, Sermons in stones and good in every thing. I would not change it.